7 Ways to Identify a Wrong Relationship before It Start



We spend just about 20% of our life living single, the remaining 80% of it will be committed to someone we swore to spend the rest of our life with in the presence of many witnesses. Our relationship can either lead us to heaven or be the reason for us ending in hell. Many of us do not seek ‘God’s Will’ for a lot of issues in life except in choosing a life partner. We tend to handle it spiritually most of the time. However there are also some things that we can see physically before we go spiritual. These 7 ways will not only save you from starting a relationship that will eventually upset you but it will also help you to guide against ‘wasted time’.

Communication
The easiest way to know if someone is truly interested in you is through communication. You are probably wondering how that is possible especially when you just met and you have not spoken about a lot of things. You can tell the level of interest of anybody from their conversation especially someone that you already know wants to be ‘more than a friend’.  If you have been spending some time together and he/she seem not to be ‘very’ interested in ‘you’ (everything about you like your family, childhood, ambition, interests etc.). Trust me, his/her interest is somewhere else, you are probably a distraction for the moment to him/her.
Expression of Affection
Is he/she quick to express his/her affection towards you? Quick to declare his/her love to you? Is everything moving so fast that you feel dizzy? Then there is something wrong somewhere. This shows you need some air to breath. You need time to think straight. You need to see clearly to choose rightly. Anyone that is careless to proclaim his/her love when she is not sure about it has every tendency to be careless with words that will hurt you.
Sex
Anyone that is intent on touching you intimately when you are not committed in marriage has no long term plan for you because ‘true love’ will wait for the right time and the right way. If he/she demands for sex before marriage, it shows that he/she is selfish, ungodly and unfaithful and lacks self control. He/she does not have to sleep with you to show his/her potency.
Belief
Anyone that does not have a relationship with God is a NO-NO. Why?? It is because if he/she does not know God, he/she cannot understand what love is and can never know the purpose of marriage. God did not introduce marriage for the fun of it. He (God) did not create Adam and Eve just to make babies everywhere and eat the fruits in the garden.
Selfishness
Naturally, man is selfish. We tend to think only about ourselves before anyone else. This is why Jesus said “Love your neighbor as yourself”. We do not need a preacher before we love ourselves neither do we have to learn it. Jesus is asking us to allow ourselves to love others as easily as we love ourselves. It is only someone that has this truth that can believe that it is possible.
If he/she is always not concerned about your cut of most of the situations that involves the two of you, no matter how simple or little, if it is a man; he cannot love you, if it is a woman; she cannot submit to you. A selfish person will never make a good spouse because you will keep giving and he/she will keep receiving without consideration.
Unfaithfulness
Being unfaithful does not necessarily mean he/she is cheating on you. Anyone that is a liar is unfaithful. Anyone that can lie to you will cheat on you without giving it a second thought. How will you know if he/she is unfaithful? You will know a liar through little and unnecessary situations that does not warrant his/her lies.
Insecurity
It is very easy to mistake insecurity for love because an insecure person is very possessive. The common excuse of a possessive person is how important you are to them such that they do not want to leave you. An insecure person is very dangerous because of their ability to abuse the one they claim to love either verbally, sexually, physically, morally, emotionally, psychologically etc. Insecurity begets possessiveness which also begets abuse.  
These attribute is not for you to judge others but also to improve your ways. 
 
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